Most of us have that person in our life that is perfectly pleasant in many respects, but just can’t seem to quit when enough is enough. They will support you, but then continually offer unsolicited opinions on what you need to do. And just won’t stop, ever.
Maybe this person is your boss. You love your job. You enjoy the challenge. But, every day your boss picks at every little thing you so. He or she claims to be happy with your work, but then keeps micromanaging everything you do, to the point that you learn to hate your job.
You get the picture. Someone in your life who makes an enjoyable activity something you come to dread or even hate.
I work with lots of adult amateur riders and find they all work hard to support their passion for riding, but sometimes, this eagerness to improve can go too far. They desperately want to provide their horse with the best and to form that deep, deep partnership. But, from the horse’s point of view, they are “that friend”.
Do you get greedy and keep riding long after the required task has been mastered? Do you fail to notice that your horse has responded and continue aiding? Do you drill tasks?
The likelihood is that you do. We all have. But try to catch yourself and stop. Give them praise when they have followed your direction, and then leave them alone. Quit nagging.
If your horse has finished the task you asked them to do, just scratch them on the neck and dismount. Job well done.
good to know
Thank you for sharing this – it has certainly provided me a better understanding of horses.
I have heard that before and it makes total sense… leave it be for awhile and go back later.
I love this! Thank you for sharing!
Your information has given me new perspectives on horse ownership
I thought watching Dr.Pol gave.me insight to horses. What you have taught me is more.
Horses have feelings too. Great article!
I don’t want to be “that friend”
Good to know
good one
You should be friends with horses
Yes, Don’t be that friend.
Agree
Great!
Yes, we need to show gratitude and love and affection to our dear horses!
Treat the horse the way you would want to be treated.
Good article
Nice
I have that friend
its important to remember a horse is more than just a friend, it is a true companion with love and feelings that are not to be taken lightly
Great information that helps me learn more about people.
I completely understand what your saying.
Great advice! And true that this can carry over many aspects on one’s life.
I always want a horse for a friend,v they are the best!
I don’t want to be “that friend”
Good advice, applies to many things in life too if you look at it that way.
Good advice
A Horse can be a great friend– but never be pushed,they know if your afraid of them,or a gentle person, This was great advise,that I think anyone can use
Thanks …I don’t want to be “that friend”
I’m guilty of being “that friend” from time to time. I will definitely be working on doing better.
Some very interesting points.
I love a happy horse!
I;’ve always known this. thanks for educating us!
ahhh makes so much sense now
If your horse has finished the task you asked them to do, just scratch them on the neck and dismount. Job well done. AMEN!
I hàte when I am trying to do my work which I am great at and someone tries to control my every move. I’m good because I do things my way. When I supervised my girls were my friends but I did most of their work off the clock
Hàte when I am trying to do my work which I am great at and someone tries to control my every move. I’m good because I do things my way. When I supervised my girls were my friends but I did most of their work off the clock
Good advice
love horse so much
thanks
Yes, that push for perfection is our problem, not their’s.
Horses are awesome and we all should respect their feelings
THE HORSE IS THE BEST FREIND FOR HUMAIN
I’m sure I have done that before sadly. But my horse and I, we know each other so well that with one look I know to stop or get down and we ever go on walks along side of each other like an old married couple in the park, or she will nip my ankle when I am in pain as a reminder that I’m doing too much to myself, (I have some health issues these days). It is amazing the relationship you can have with our horses and it is so much more than one can explain in a reply .
i dont ever want to be that type of friend,again ty sharing!
Don’t be that friend to your horse (or to others around you).
thank you for sharing your info
So don’t be overclingy? 😉😉
Thanks for the info
Insightful
I have a Friend just like this 😉
Thank you for the great advice,
Better than humans!
Im def not that friend
Dont be that friend ! We all know this type
You are an inspiration
Interesting points made
Good advice. Treat your horse with respect.
I feel like people sometimes forget that animals “feel” so much, they can’t communicate like a human does… that’s why it’s even more important that your actions, and behaviour mirror what you want to convey to them!
just look around and there someone with the same problem as you-
unsolicited opinions